Monthly Archives: February 2013

Visiting art museums, reading long books, brunching, owning artwork, knowing your reds from your whites… really, what does it mean to be cultured?

18 days ago I turned 27. Reading this just before my birthday gave me a great deal to think about as I continue to live abroad, meet new people and figure out how to be myself in a new place. I found Chekhov’s words, written when he was about my age, very motivational and necessary for me at this point in my life. Maybe you’ll find it helpful too. 🙂

From Brainpickings:

What does it mean to be “cultured”? Is it about being a good reader, or knowing how to talk about books you haven’t read, or having a general disposition of intellectual elegance? That’s precisely the question beloved Russian author Anton Chekhov, born on this day in 1860, considers in a letter to his older brother Nikolai, an artist. The missive, written when Anton was 26 and Nikolai 28 and found inLetters of Anton Chekhov to his Family and Friends (public domain; public library), dispenses a hearty dose of tough love and outlines the eight qualities of cultured people — including honesty, altruism, and good habits:

MOSCOW, 1886.

… You have often complained to me that people “don’t understand you”! Goethe and Newton did not complain of that…. Only Christ complained of it, but He was speaking of His doctrine and not of Himself…. People understand you perfectly well. And if you do not understand yourself, it is not their fault.

I assure you as a brother and as a friend I understand you and feel for you with all my heart. I know your good qualities as I know my five fingers; I value and deeply respect them. If you like, to prove that I understand you, I can enumerate those qualities. I think you are kind to the point of softness, magnanimous, unselfish, ready to share your last farthing; you have no envy nor hatred; you are simple-hearted, you pity men and beasts; you are trustful, without spite or guile, and do not remember evil…. You have a gift from above such as other people have not: you have talent. This talent places you above millions of men, for on earth only one out of two millions is an artist. Your talent sets you apart: if you were a toad or a tarantula, even then, people would respect you, for to talent all things are forgiven.

You have only one failing, and the falseness of your position, and your unhappiness and your catarrh of the bowels are all due to it. That is your utter lack of culture. Forgive me, please, but veritas magis amicitiae…. You see, life has its conditions. In order to feel comfortable among educated people, to be at home and happy with them, one must be cultured to a certain extent. Talent has brought you into such a circle, you belong to it, but … you are drawn away from it, and you vacillate between cultured people and the lodgers vis-a-vis.

Cultured people must, in my opinion, satisfy the following conditions:

  1. They respect human personality, and therefore they are always kind, gentle, polite, and ready to give in to others. They do not make a row because of a hammer or a lost piece of india-rubber; if they live with anyone they do not regard it as a favour and, going away, they do not say “nobody can live with you.” They forgive noise and cold and dried-up meat and witticisms and the presence of strangers in their homes.
  2. They have sympathy not for beggars and cats alone. Their heart aches for what the eye does not see…. They sit up at night in order to help P…., to pay for brothers at the University, and to buy clothes for their mother.
  3. They respect the property of others, and therefor pay their debts.
  4. They are sincere, and dread lying like fire. They don’t lie even in small things. A lie is insulting to the listener and puts him in a lower position in the eyes of the speaker. They do not pose, they behave in the street as they do at home, they do not show off before their humbler comrades. They are not given to babbling and forcing their uninvited confidences on others. Out of respect for other people’s ears they more often keep silent than talk.
  5. They do not disparage themselves to rouse compassion. They do not play on the strings of other people’s hearts so that they may sigh and make much of them. They do not say “I am misunderstood,” or “I have become second-rate,” because all this is striving after cheap effect, is vulgar, stale, false….
  6. They have no shallow vanity. They do not care for such false diamonds as knowing celebrities, shaking hands with the drunken P., [Translator’s Note: Probably Palmin, a minor poet.] listening to the raptures of a stray spectator in a picture show, being renowned in the taverns…. If they do a pennyworth they do not strut about as though they had done a hundred roubles’ worth, and do not brag of having the entry where others are not admitted…. The truly talented always keep in obscurity among the crowd, as far as possible from advertisement…. Even Krylov has said that an empty barrel echoes more loudly than a full one.
  7. If they have a talent they respect it. They sacrifice to it rest, women, wine, vanity…. They are proud of their talent…. Besides, they are fastidious.
  8. They develop the aesthetic feeling in themselves. They cannot go to sleep in their clothes, see cracks full of bugs on the walls, breathe bad air, walk on a floor that has been spat upon, cook their meals over an oil stove. They seek as far as possible to restrain and ennoble the sexual instinct…. What they want in a woman is not a bed-fellow … They do not ask for the cleverness which shows itself in continual lying. They want especially, if they are artists, freshness, elegance, humanity, the capacity for motherhood…. They do not swill vodka at all hours of the day and night, do not sniff at cupboards, for they are not pigs and know they are not. They drink only when they are free, on occasion…. For they wantmens sana in corpore sano [a healthy mind in a healthy body].

And so on. This is what cultured people are like. In order to be cultured and not to stand below the level of your surroundings it is not enough to have read “The Pickwick Papers” and learnt a monologue from “Faust.” …

What is needed is constant work, day and night, constant reading, study, will…. Every hour is precious for it…. Come to us, smash the vodka bottle, lie down and read…. Turgenev, if you like, whom you have not read.

You must drop your vanity, you are not a child … you will soon be thirty.
It is time!
I expect you…. We all expect you.


Spring is upon us and this means it’s nearly time to break out any floral patterned  clothing you might own. It’s an exciting time for those of us who have had to wear thick coats and bulky scarves for the last few months. Well. Not me. I live in sub-tropical weather and perspire at the slightest movement. Nor anyone I know in any part of California. But probably people in Chicago or Moscow could relate.

Browsing certain retail spots here in HK, I’ve noticed daises in particular might be the flower of choice this SS13. I’ve seen them on sweaters, cell phone cases, embellishments on collared shirts and pants — it’s such a cute and fashionably acceptable flower to put almost anywhere. I’ll write a post on other emergent trends I’m sniffing out but for now, I want to share one particular daisy-related article of clothing I’ve come across. And it is absolutely adorable.


My face melted a bit when I saw it, similar to what happens when I see a cute dog: Legs lock. Eyes fixate on object of desire for impolite amounts of time (you know, like Lady “Crazy Eyes” from HIMYM). Hands clasp dramatically infront of chest. High-pitched, squealing sounds emerge from throat. It all happened to some degree when I saw this Kenzo baby. I love its girly yet subtly very sexy silhouette, a duality Kenzo is knowing for pulling off with effortless grace. Whether it’s a bottle of perfume or a blazer, Kenzo’s work epitomizes chic femininity. (Though what wouldn’t be so chic or effortlessly graceful is me wearing this thing and constantly wondering about flashing my azz at everyone) I also think shift dresses with cuts similar to this one will also be a big hit this season. Personally I’m a fan of the focus on “legs for daaaays” as opposed to “boobs in your faaaace.” You can thank my androgynous frame for that.

The daisy panel is accentuated by the playful flare of the skirt which I think does more for the dress than something that falls straight on the legs. Plus it has pockets for a few chocolates or a cellphone or nervous hands on a first date. There is virtually nothing more you could ask for in a spring dress.


 Arigatou gozaimasu Takada-san~!